“I can’t go back to yesterday – because I was a different person then”
     — Lewis Carroll

“If I had my life to live over again…”  How many statements filled with regret have we made that begin with those words?  Now that I am practically perfect, there are many events in my earlier life that I know I could manage better with the perspective I have gained through years of living.

Then I stop and think of all the places I’ve been and all the life lessons I’ve learned, and I realize that some of those things I’d like to change are exactly the things that have brought me to today.  I thought of the butterflies that grace my garden each summer and how effortlessly they fly from flower to flower.  Then I thought of how ridiculous they would look trying to blend in with the broccoli shoots and munch on the leaves.  Without those leaves, they could not have reached the place where they spun a cocoon and were transformed.

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Not unlike my elegant, winged friends, each of us spends our time being fed, growing strong, and when the time is right, being transformed.  Every bite we take out of life, every morsel of experience we tuck away, is an integral part of who we will become.  We need it all, even the parts that later make us wistfully say, “if I had my life to live over again.”

We cannot go back and redo what is done, because we no longer are the people we were when we were munching away at life.  Instead, we should take a lesson from the butterfly and stop crawling, spread our wings, and fly.